Things that have happened this summer vacation:
- Planned a 2 1/2 week road trip with the whole family to my family Reunion in Arizona.
- Canceled said trip due to Matthew’s overwhelming and unexpected work load.
- Bought a plane ticket for Genevieve and myself to go to the family reunion.
- Cancelled said ticket due to 2 kids having a fever.
- In lieu of a big family vacation, tried to plan a bunch of fun little things for the kids to do around our home county instead.
- Realized kids don’t need thousand dollar vacations to have a good time, they just want you to take them to pet some animals and eat ice cream.
Things in life will NEVER work out exactly how one plans them, and for someone like me who likes to have every minute of every day planned out for maximum productivity, that can be
But since Matthew’s business has never been able to keep to a normal schedule, because it revolves around so many unpredictable factors, I have had to learn to be more flexible. In fact, I have gotten so good at being flexible, I am the equivalent of a scheduling gymnast. Get it? Flexible? Gymnast? I know, bad pun. Anyway…
The scarcity of our family time has also made me really cherish the days and moments that we get to spend together, and make sure to keep those moments simple. I think as parents, we are sometimes tempted to make big productions for our kids, and there is nothing wrong with a big vacation, or a pinterest perfect family night. Believe me, I dream of being able to take my kids to a theme park, or to the lake, or to Hawaii.
But in our situation, since our time together is so limited, we find things that are local (to minimize travel time), and simple (to maximize interactions with each other).
And you know what? My kids LOVE it. They love the $3 tractor ride at Malabar farm, they love hiking in the woods next to the Clear Fork Reservoir and coming home butt naked because they “accidentally” got wet splashing in the water.
The love flying the big foam airplanes that Nana (my mom) got them. They love playing with the pygmy goats at Uncle John and Aunt Debbie’s house, and they love helping me around the house. They love when Papa gives them a tractor ride, or when we get to visit daddy at his shop.
If you’re in a similar situation and just can’t give the vacation you want to your kids, don’t worry about it. I’m just now figuring out what most of you probably already know; kids don’t want things as much as we think, they want us and our time. That’s the most important thing we can give them.